Understanding anger management and distinguish normal from pathological anger
Understanding anger management and distinguish normal from pathological anger
Anger is a violent and transient emotional state, the result of a feeling of aggression or unpleasantness, expressing great dissatisfaction and accompanied by brutal reactions.
Anger, like any emotion, is a reaction to an event. However, it is never an event in itself that triggers emotion and anger. Anger occurs when an event contrary to an expectation or a desire occurs. Intolerance to the frustration generated causes anger.
The angry man has the need to see his desire satisfied immediately, and cannot bear the frustration linked to his dissatisfaction. Anger is a signal that indicates and expresses the frustration of a desire, the questioning of an expectation, the attack of a value.
The question to ask is whether the unfulfilled expectations are realistic. Anger is normal and useful when it expresses the annoyance linked to a legitimate and realistic expectation. Anger becomes pathological when it is caused by inappropriate interpretations and expectations.